Why I Love my wife?

It’s been 4 months now since we got married. Wow.. 4 months. May not be a big thing for many but it’s a big thing for me.

But I’m not here to share about my 4 months experience. It’s my wife’s “birfdey”!  So this is my way of praising her with words.

People say it to my face. At times, I hear people tell other people that despite of who I am, and imperfections… I managed to find a good wife.

The experience of chasing her during the “head hunting” days was challenging.

To be rejected for about 6 times or more by her, I thought it would be easier for me to get a girl with my credentials: Song-writer, leader of the band, lead vocalist, life-changer, God lover and…… handsome, sexy (and I know it), charming and beyond awesomeness ( I just had to put the last 4.. muahaha… it’s my blog =P) SHE was a tough catch =)

I think she saw more of my weaknesses, which to me was no use and felt utterly useless.


What seem to be the finishing line for me, turned out to be the starting line of our relationship together, appreciating me for who I am and then loving me for who I am.

It was the other side off me that caught her attention. It was the humility to admit that “I ain’t no superman” but a man that by the grace of God, something can just work out.

I don’t think I found just a good wife, I found a great wife!

Yes Chloe YOU ARE =)


Another beautiful reason why I love my wife is coz she has a big heart for people. When i say big, I really mean BIG.

There was a time our church needed volunteers to serve the community. I didn’t respond coz I had other responsibilities to look into. When I was getting ready to leave to go back home, I was looking for her only to find that she wanted to know more about serving the community.

In all honesty, there was a time when I was jealous. Other people, whether they were her family, teens, friends, strangers etc etc… they all seem to have a good ample time with her, over a “30-45mins chitty chat session”, sharing about life in general, that when it comes to my “chitty chat session”, I don’t seem to get the same amount of time =P If I’m lucky, i’ll get 10mins =P hehe

I remember she told me coz I was special, hence I get the “Special” treatment =P

But as we grow in our relationship, I have learned to accept that she genuinely loves people. She just has this heart to serve, to help, to lend a hand when she’s able. She thinks less about herself and more of others. Even when she’s tired, the grace of God is all she needs to fuel her up. If she had to decide to buy a Prada bag over a homeless family… she’d choose the PRADA BAG and then help the family =P No just kidding… she’ll ditch the bag and give her time, money, etc, to those who may well deserve it.

My wife is no Mother Theresa but her simplicity to love others and her response to action, catches the attention of not only me, but her maker, God, in which I know He is pleased.

Yes, Hao Ying, God is pleased and so am I =)


In my conversations with my dad, I remember he saying, “find a wife who is like my mom”. I’m like… “WHAT? I don’t want a mother!!?!?!” =P hehe.. Nah.. just kidding. I knew what he meant.

My mom was “da bomb” in her younger days. She could have gone out with any guy but she chose my dad and loved him for the type of man he was.

Well, in my years of “fishing”, my personal desire in women changed. Dating was no game and love was seriously getting hard to find.

Girls are getting prettier but after a while you realize that what lies beneath the surface ain’t pretty at all.

I don’t really like women who are ultra-sexy. I especially don’t like women who thinks they have everything, failing to realize that their brain exist.


What made it tougher was that my pride wasn’t helping at all. I strived hard in most relationships. There were some I didn’t want to let go but had too.

I remember praying to God this: “I pray that someone out there would love me for me” as I have always felt that I have not much to offer.

God being God, answered my prayer.

I don’t think that I just found someone who could love me for who I am… I found someone who loves and fears the Lord.

My wife, if you know her is one tough girl. She is confident, able to do things on her own and secured with whatever she has. During her trials/challenges, she doesn’t runaway feeling hopeless. She runs to God first before she even comes running to me. I feel which is something good to know coz if she has a problem with me, I know she’s going to God first and not do something stupid =)

Does that mean she’s invincible by herself? Yes and No. Yes, coz she has God. No, coz there are battles that together, as husband and wife, can overcome.

Towards the end of 2011 and the beginning of this year 2012, things had been tough from my side. Whether it may be, spiritually, emotionally… things weren’t going right in certain areas of my life. I praise God for her coz she stood by my side in faith and prayer… reminding me of who I am and who God is in my life. My hopes, my dreams…. everything.

You see my wife ain’t no Jessica Alba or Megan Fox or Maria Sharapova. But she has something that surpasses each and everyone of them and that is her fear of God. Her love of the Father, her desires to do what He desires not for her glory and her fame but His.

I don’t need a girl who is pretty and shallow inside. I need a girl who is pretty(honestly speaking =) ) and that has depth. That fear of God… did I hit the jackpot? OH YES I DID!!!

Will the Jessica’s, the Megan’s and Maria’s experience that same fear? Maybe and I hope so. But my wife’s got my attention already, hence I married her.

Yes Mrs. Batiancila, I am impressed and challenged by how you fear the Lord. Keep it up!

Well, that’s that.

There are other reasons why I love my wife. I don’t think I’ve mentioned enough in this blog. I’ll keep the rest for the years to come, that is if “the end of the world” doesn’t take place this year =P

Who knows, I may just learn something new along the way that would praise her even more as my wife =)

Hepi Birfdey to my wife and best-friend, Chloe aka Hao Ying aka Mrs. Batiancila =)

xoxoxxoo LOL!

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Posted by on April 21, 2012 in My S.O.A.P


Relent – You Still Love (Official Music Video)

Here’s a music video which me and my band(Relent) did. Have a look and be blessed!

Be a fan of the band, click here.

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Posted by on January 18, 2012 in Videos I Watch


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2012 is a done deal

2 Cor 9:8 (NIV)
And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.

During this prayer and fasting, I was looking for a verse to share to my family and friends. I stumbled upon this verse where I feel I want to keep for the whole year… if not, for life.

My favorite version is from NLT

2 Cor 9:8 (NLT)
And God will generously provide all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to share with others.

This verse gave me something to look forward to this year.

I want to do something great this year. Not good, but great. I want to do something feasible, in other words, possible.

Prior to this verse, it talked about how we should be a giver, willing and cheerful. I ask myself, am I always willing when I give? Cheerful with the whole process?

Out of 100%, if I have to be honest to myself, I think I’m a 50% or less. I mean I give, but not really give give (If you know what I mean? =P ).  “Giving” is something hard to do. I don’t earn much. Just enough I guess =) I’m sure some, if not all can relate to what I’m saying. At time’s we would expect something in return… right? I know I do… sometimes.. =P

I know people who loves giving, leaving me to wonder how do they do it? A part of me want to be like them but how can I if I have nothing to offer?

Why I want to claim this verse? To receive abundantly and beyond is one thing (well to earn more than what I have would be great) but it’s also to genuinely experience what my friends really feel when they give, expecting nothing in return but give!

This year, not only shall I be a receiver, I want to be a giver.

I praise you Lord coz you have been a blessing. Bless me O Lord, so that I may be a blessing.

Believing for a breakthrough.


Posted by on January 16, 2012 in My S.O.A.P


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The Making of You Still Love

VIDEO IS OUT! Well not really. Anyway, here’s what my hair looked like a few months ago =P


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Know your Rights!

I thought this was cool. Watch and learn something

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Posted by on January 13, 2012 in Videos I Watch


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Luke 8:15

But the seed on good soil stands for those with a noble and good heart, who hear the word, retain it, and by persevering produce a crop

This passage was taken from the parable of the sower, basically saying not to be mere listener’s but doer’s of the word.

I got the prayer and fasting booklet yesterday from my church, Eaglepoint, where a question was asked. “What are two words will you use to describe the kind of heart you want to have for God in replacement of the word “religiosity”?”
To me the two words would be a “noble” and “good heart” as what Dr. Luke mention in Chapter 8.

But my blog isn’t about the 2 words I just mentioned but a word mentioned towards the very end of the verse which is “Persevering” or in other words, Perseverance.

Perseverance means:
continued steady belief or efforts, withstanding discouragement or difficulty.

Other translation say

As for that in the good soil, they are those who, hearing the word, hold it fast in an honest and good heart, and bear fruit with patience

So in other words, if I were to interpret what Luke was trying to say is that “Hey, you heard me. Act on what you hear and be patient regardless of the circumstances and reap the benefits”

Now I have no idea how 2011 was for everyone, but my 2011 was so and so. It surely didn’t match my 2010 or my 2009. I longed for things to happen last year but didn’t get to see them take place.

Reading this passage encouraged and reminded me about persevering in life. It’s tough. At times, I really feel like giving up on certain things. Well, I believe in not only a good God but a Great God. I believe I will not only see but “Do” great things in 2012.

If you’ve heard a promise from God, hold on to that promise and persevere. It will come to pass!

Happy New Year everyone.

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Posted by on January 9, 2012 in My S.O.A.P


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Took this off from my bunny friends post  =P

Agree or disagree, I’m leaning towards the latter =)

Anyway, I thought this was cool.

Posted on 2 November 2010
Taken from a 6-year old blog entry which was taken off a bulletin from Friendster:

1. The nice men are ugly.

2. The handsome men are not nice.

3. The handsome and nice men are gay.

4. The handsome, nice, and heterosexual men are married.

5. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money.

6. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money.

7. The handsome men without money are after our money.

8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don’t think we are beautiful enough.

9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have no money, are cowards.

10. The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have money and thank God are straight, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!!

11. The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative.


“Men are like fine wine. They all start out like grapes, and it’s our job to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you’d like to have dinner with.”

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Literally laughed myself silly reading it.

So yeah.. Men. Whether you agree or disagree. LoL~

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Posted by on November 21, 2011 in Random Thoughts


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